If there is one thing that will hold you back in your career it's "not getting along with the boss". It doesn't matter whether your boss is right or wrong, weak or strong. The reality is, the boss is the boss, and you're success hinges on what you make of the relationship.
Special Note: For the purpose of keeping this post as simple and clear as possible, we'll assume your boss is a she
The good news is this. If you happen to be one of the unfortunate people who works for a difficult boss, you can be successful in spite of her. Two big secrets:
- Understanding what makes her tick
- Knowing how and when to give her what she wants (not necessarily what she needs)
Jill Geisler from the Poynter Institute has already created a list of 20 things you should know about your boss. If you know answers to these 20 things, you'll be well on your way to understanding what makes her tick. Here's her list:
1. Preferred method of giving info to me:
2. Preferred method of getting info from me:
3. Biggest current pressure:
4. Stands for these values, first and foremost:
5. Biggest "hot button":
6. Passion outside of work:
7. Has expertise in:
8. Lacks expertise in:
9. Vision for our organization:
10. Would be really hurt if someone:
11. Best boss my boss ever worked for:
12. Expects this from me when there's a small problem:
13. Expects this from me then there's a big problem:
14. Will not compromise when it comes to:
15. Considers a great day at work to be:
16. Handles pressure by:
17. Is respected by her/his bosses for:
18. Respects others for:
19. Has a blind spot about:
20. Thinks I'm great at:
Go read her full article titled "20 Questions About Your Boss" to get the full meaning of her point.
Ok...point #2 Knowing how and when to give her what she wants (not necessarily what she needs) -
Your answers to the 20 questions will give you the majority of information you need to know "how and when". So giving her "what she wants" is the next key.
It's really pretty simple if you think about it. When she needs something from you, get very clear about what that is, when she wants it, and deliver it with a smile...especially when you disagree or have some other negative reaction to it. Here's what I mean by that.
Difficult bosses usually like to be in control and they REALLY like to be right. Unless you have the savvy to pull it off, you may fall victim to your own best judgment. Save your judgment and creativity for a boss that will appreciate it. In the meantime, do what you need to do, do it well and you'll open up doors to your next opportunity.
What should we add to this list?








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